Monday, February 3, 2014

justin bieber and the nipple incident

so it happened, i finally reached the point in my short lived run as a belieber. im done.

this time last year i was hard core supporting him. doing my best to get my then 5 year old to love him as much as i did - i secretly wanted an excuse to support him seeing as i am a 40 something mom :) but he's a talented guy so i didn't really need an excuse to jump on the bieber train but since i have a little girl, what better excuse? so i spent most of the end of 2012 and all of 2013 into him. i spent more hours than i care to admit checking his twitter and following along with all of his drama with selena and his crazy fandom. those girls that love him...love him to the death, which i where i am afraid he is headed.

it was a fun escape, maybe i was reliving my teenage years all over again. it was an innocent obsession, something to do late at night after being a mom all day, you know be-bopping around to his upbeat songs and wishing i had just an ounce of coordination to dance a smidge like him! i read his moms book, spent many an hour flipping through his books and may or may not have had "beauty and a beat" on repeat in my car. so yeah, i was into him and was super excited that my daughter had someone she could look up to and music she could listen to that i wasn't too worried about. yes some of the songs may have inappropriate words here and there but over all the biebs was all good!

at the time i was working with a non profit that serves women and girls who have been victims of sexual abuse, specifically sex trafficking in girls 12-17. i was so hopeful that somehow someone could get JB to jump onto this cause...i mean come on, his audience is that exact population. how amazing would it be if he could begin to educate his beliebers on how to keep themselves safe. even his own mom has been a victim of sexual abuse. such an amazing opportunity to show these precious girls, that would do anything for him, how amazing they are and to show them how a real man treats women... i was hopeful that he would come across this cause on his own and do something. it would have been the perfect platform for him, especially when it comes to prevention. if we can educate these girls we are that much further ahead of the perpetrator. anyway off that soapbox, it was just a dream.

then things started to happen with JB, these songs came out ...lolly and don't hate tha playa, we heard about him peeing in buckets and getting high, on again off again with selena, drama and more drama. most of it i blew off as normal teenage stuff, i mean, i can not even imagine how hard it is to grow up in the media, and as part of the generation who has their entire life published for the world to judge. so i get some of it. money, fame, celebrity. that has to be hard.

but when you sign up for that life that is what you get. you can't pee in buckets, get high and get arrested without consequences. when you are justin bieber a certain amount of accountability and responsibility has to be expected of you. when you have the ability to influence so many why not do more to be a positive influence.

i get it, you help build schools, you visit poor kids, you give them your shoes, you visit children's hospitals etc, etc. but you know and i know that people only remember the stuff of controversy, so stop it.

think about your little sister, what if in 20 years those are her nipples that are being bitten on and photographed and shared around the world. that girl in that picture is someones daughter. she was a little girl too. she didn't dream of being a stripper who would one day become famous because some famous guy bit her nipples, photographed it and allowed the picture to be published. she had different hopes and dreams. so stop it, stand up for women like her and show all of these girls that love you that they don't need to be treated this way to be loved. think of your mom and your sister and all of your precious beliebers who mean so much to you,  do the right thing.

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